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Love Notes

LoVe NoteS by joe d’Mango

  • Love don’t give us the promise of forever, but having faith on it makes us believe that there is.
  • Love is not a one-shot deal that you have to get right at first. You will always make mistakes and find your ideal partner. Love is also a process of finding your way, finding the right one.
  • The greates mistake we’ll make in a relationship is when we look at somebody else other than our partner to satisfy our emotional and physical needs. The second mistake is when we consciously allow ourselves to be the object of these emotional and physical desires.
  • We can never be certain of our relationships because not all of them are built to last our lifetime. We have to constantly nurture it so it can grow and we can grow old with it.
  • In the midst of despair, pain, and sorrow, someone comes in our life and gives us strength to believe in life again. The love they give us gives us a blind faith that helps us believe in ourselves again, that we can make our dreams come true.
  • Love can be the bet thing that will ever happen to you. More often than not, your lover is also your bestfriend, one who will stand by you through thick and thin.
  • Most ordinary relationships begin and most of them continue as forms of mutual exploitation, a mental or physical barter, to be terminated when one or both parties run out of goods. The truth is you will not rn out of goods if you believe you won’t.
  • People cannot change who you really are. You just have to tell them and be honest about th real person behind you. You cannot hide in your cloak of deception forever. You desreve to be happy just by being yourself.
  • A relationship is a two way street. It’s never all your fault or the other person’s. You go into the relationship together and work thorugh it all together. And remember, the best relationship is one w/c your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
  • When we begin to put so much weight on what others fell and think about our relationships, we become distracted and lose our own perception of our partners.
  • If you choose to fight for love, then you should be prepared to face the consequences and risk associated with it. But if you choose to follow tradition over the dictate of your heart the you also have to be prepared to lose someone you love.
  • Let us always remember that, in the end it is not how much love we have received that would count, but how much love we have given and how much more we are willing to give even without the promise of earning it back.
  • We constantly have to make an extra effort to make others feel that they are important to us and the small things they do are appreciated. The greatness of a relationship is built on the foundation of small acts of kindess, love and compassion.
  • Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, they are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a purpose and meaning behind all events, and this purpose and meaning develops you as a person and as a lover.

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Love by Joe D' Mango

What hurts most?


...when you can't fight for that one thing that would make you happy...
...I may never be the guy you look forward to seeing every day...
...but I will always be the guy who will look out for you each and every day...

Sad Girl: "don't make me feel that i'm just a selfish jerk just because I made you cry"!

Sad Guy: "then don't make me feel like I did nothing for you when I almost died crying just to see you smile..."

Men are haunted by the vastness of eternity. And some ask ourselves: Will our actions echo across the centuries?

Will strangers hear our names long after we are gone, and wonder who we were, how bravely we fought, how fiercely we loved?

Love isn't when you can't sleep ... it's when you want to keep your eyes open...

Love isn't when you keep holding on ... it's when you learn to let go ...

Love isn't when you kill yourself with jealousy ... it's when you understand ...

Love isnt' when you fall for someone ... it's when you catch that person when she falls...

Love isn't when you see her everywhere ... it's when you close your eyes and she is still there ...

Love isn't when you tell her what you feel ... it's when you give everything for her sake...

And Love isn't when you think you were blind ... it's when you know she was wrong but you didn't mind!
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Joe D’Mango and His Own Love Notes

Have you ever paused for a while when someone takes a hike over your love affair? Here’s a truly beautiful love affair that never runs out of end. This is the story of a love opinion giver in Joe D’Mango, the popular love doctor in “Love Notes”. Try and feel his presence in your eyes as he tears your heart out with his own love story to tell… Cry as you wish when he bursts his own love story and feel that even the very best love doctors can actually face the worst nightmare on love issues.

Here goes…… ( This is a copied story from my friend in Ms. Marge Padilla, our HR head at the office who loves reading and loves people and be friends the unfriendly )
Joe D’Mango’s Love Story.
Of course you’ve  heard of Joe D’Mango. He gives advice on love and
relationships on Wave 89.1 ( Philippines) . Have you ever wondered what he does when he has his own love problems?  Does he give advice to himself? Does he handle it very well?
Three  fridays ago, our guru on relationships, Joe D’Mango, read a letter to his wife on his popular radio program Love Notes.  For the past 11 years, he had been giving advice to people who would write him letters
about their  personal problems. To the surprise of his listeners that
Friday, instead of  reading one of his usual letters, he read one that he
had written himself to his wife Bing. Joe felt that he had to tell his
listeners that even someone like him could go through a marital crisis, but that he survived it. Here’s how his letter goes:
” In our 11 years of marriage it was just the two of us. I never had a close circle of friends and she never had one either.  Life for us was just “you and me,” day in and day out. We were literally  sleeping beside each other for 11 years. It came to a point that there was nothing more interesting to talk about. I was aware I was doing that but I never did anything about it. We were so close yet it seemed like we were so distant. Then came her new circle of friends.
They recently had an  elementary and high school reunion. Remember her
persistent suitor since elementary days? He was there. We already had four daughters and the guy had four kids of his own. They exchanged phone numbers. They started to text each other and this bothered me. A big part of it was insecurity and other part was that she once denied that she was texting the guy.
I felt  bad because she started hiding things from me. Then the guy asked her if they could meet for lunch. It became a source of tension between us.
I finally agreed, but before that, I told her that I felt that I was going
through the same pain again. I have seen so many stories like this. If you
told me the first part of the story, I would already know where it would
lead to.
Bing accused me of being a “know-it-all” person. But deep in my heart, I
knew where she was heading. Why would a married guy see a married girl unless it was for business or professional reasons? Finally, even if it was against my will, I drove her to the meeting place.
While I was waiting at the radio station, I wanted to call her but knew it wasn’t proper. So I just waited for her to tell me how their meeting went.
When she related to me what happened I felt that she was keeping the other details. I was afraid to ask because I wasn’t prepared to accept her answers. I told her that it would be best if that was their last meeting.
She got mad and told me that I was starting to control her life.
The following day, I saw a small, torn piece of paper that had the words,
“lose you” in the trash can at home.  I started picking up the pieces of
paper and putting them together. She had  written: “Felt sad because I felt that this will be our last meeting.”  “Wanted to hug you…” Before I could figure out what the third one was, Bing was already at my back. She wanted to get the torn pieces of paper back.  She said it was private property. We decided to talk.
By then, I was able to figure out the third line: “Not sure if afraid to
lose you.”  She had crossed it out and beside it, she had written, “Wanted to cry.”
That was what hit me. How could you lose something that’s not even with you yet? That was a confirmation that she was getting emotionally attached to the guy. We fought because she didn’t want to admit it. She said that what she had written was all about friendship and not about love. For the first time in our marriage she asked for freedom from me. For 11 years we were always together, and now this.
She had discovered her own little world and wanted to explore it. I didn’t want to give it to her but finally I gave in. I told her that she could do anything she wanted and not worry about how I would feel. In fact, I told her that I was planning to leave her and kids for a while so we could give each other the chance to be alone. We decided to give the new arrangement a try.
The following day, Thursday, I went to work early and she texted me. I
never answered back.  When I didn’t respond, she called me. She said, “I’m sorry. I love you and I  miss you.” For the first time in our mariage I said, “I love you and I miss you too” with tears in my eyes.
I realized how much I loved her but I also knew how much she wanted her freedom. When I arrived at the station I asked for a leave. My boss advised me to think it over, but he said that he would allow me to go on leave.
After letting it all out I felt relieved. It was the first time in my life
that I asked for advice about our relationship.
While I was talking with my boss, a messenger arrived with 12 white roses arranged in a basket. It came from Bing. Then a text message on my cellphone came, “I know that no material things can ease the pain that you’re feeling right now, but these flowers signify my pure and sincere
intentions.  I’m really sorry. Please forgive  me.”
Still, a question continued to bug me: “I’m giving you the freedom.  Will
you choose to stay or go on?” I read the card, and it had the answer to my question: “Dear Dad, I finally realized that I made a very big mistake in choosing a new-found friendship at the expense of our long-time friendship.
Please forgive me. I wil always love you.”
Bing  called the guy and told him that she wanted to end the friendship.
He said that they could just text or call each other.  Bing said that there was no need.
We had dinner and talked up to 1 am. It was like getting married all over again. We lost each other and found our way back. I do not want to go
through the same pain again.
Friday came and it was the first  time in the history of Love Notes that I couldn’t do Love Notes. I scheduled a replay. When I was at the station at 9 am, I composed a letter to Bing. I  was asking myself, should I read this or do a replay? I chose to read the  letter. It is not unusual to hear people say “I love you because…,” but  this story has shown us that the deeper and greater love is having to say  “I LOVE YOU IN SPITE OF…”
What hurts  most?
…when you can’t fight for that one thing that would make you happy…
…I may never be the guy you look forward to seeing every day…
…but I will always be the guy who will look out for you each and every
day…
Sad Girl: “don’t make me feel that i’m just a selfish jerk just  because I
made you cry”!
Sad Guy: “then don’t make me feel like I did nothing for you when I almost died crying  just to see you smile…”Men are haunted by the vastness of eternity. And some ask ourselves: Will our actions echo across the centuries?
Will strangers hear our names long after we are gone, and wonder who we were, how bravely we fought, how fiercely we loved?
Love isn’t when you can’t sleep … it’s when you want to keep your eyes
open…
Love isn’t when you keep holding on … it’s when you learn to let go …
Love isn’t when you kill yourself with jealousy … it’s when you
understand …
Love isnt’ when you fall for someone … it’s when you catch that person
when she falls…
Love isn’t when you see her everywhere … it’s when you close your eyes
and she is still there …
Love isn’t when you tell her what you feel … it’s when you give
everything for her sake…
And Love isn’t  when you think you were blind … it’s when you know she
was wrong but you didn’t mind!



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